Sex + Intimacy · Dose 02

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Today’s Sex + Intimacy Dose / 002

Desire makes more sense when you stop treating it like a test.

Start with the question

What are you trying to make sense of?

Start with the question that has been difficult to ask, explain, or understand without judgment.

The Sex + Intimacy Dose

Before you ask what’s wrong.

Curiosity creates more room than comparison.

01

Digest

Notice what is happening without immediately grading your desire, body, pleasure, or relationship.

02

Think

Separate desire from love, attraction, obligation, and performance. They are connected, but they are not identical.

03

Do

Have one smaller conversation. Name a want, a limit, a question, or something you would like to understand together.